In my next life.

In my next life....I will be less serious
In my next life....I will talk less and listen more
In my next life....I will have more children
In my next life....I will not settle for less than I want
In my next life....I will not be a product of my environment
In my next life....I will allow myself to hate with good reason
In my next life....I will work harder to keep my friendships good
In my next life....I will not make judgments on other people
In my next life....I will be more intellectual
In my next life....I will be more involved
In my next life....I will watch the news
In my next life....I will be an outside girl
In my next life....I will be more forgiving
In my next life....I will sing karaoke
In my next life....I will write a bestselling novel
In my next life....I will wear high heels a lot
In my next life....I will be a photographer
In my next life....I will be a world traveler
In my next life....I will still be in love with my husband
In my next life....I will still have my daughter as my first born
In my next life....I will keep in better touch with my family
In my next life....I will be a protector for all things unprotected
In my next life....I will be nicer
In my next life....I will live somewhere tropical...at least sometimes
In my next life....I will be tanner
In my next life....I will be thinner
In my next life....I will be more there

My Quiz results

You Are a Marilyn!




You are a Marilyn -- "I am affectionate and skeptical."


Marilyns are responsible, trustworthy, and value loyalty to family, friends, groups, and causes. Their personalities range broadly from reserved and timid to outspoken and confrontative.







How to Get Along with Me
* Be direct and clear
* Listen to me carefully
* Don't judge me for my anxiety
* Work things through with me
* Reassure me that everything is OK between us
* Laugh and make jokes with me
* Gently push me toward new experiences
* Try not to overreact to my overreacting.




What I Like About Being a Marilyn
* being committed and faithful to family and friends
* being responsible and hardworking
* being compassionate toward others
* having intellect and wit
* being a nonconformist
* confronting danger bravely
* being direct and assertive




What's Hard About Being a Marilyn
* the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind
* procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself
* fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of
* exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger
* wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right
* being too critical of myself when I haven't lived up to my expectations




Marilyns as Children Often
* are friendly, likable, and dependable, and/or sarcastic, bossy, and stubborn
* are anxious and hypervigilant; anticipate danger
* form a team of "us against them" with a best friend or parent
* look to groups or authorities to protect them and/or question authority and rebel
* are neglected or abused, come from unpredictable or alcoholic families, and/or take on the fearfulness of an overly anxious parent




Marilyns as Parents
* are often loving, nurturing, and have a strong sense of duty
* are sometimes reluctant to give their children independence
* worry more than most that their children will get hurt
* sometimes have trouble saying no and setting boundaries

Pics from the weekend!

Ewwww!!

I hate mean people....now don't misunderstand.....everyone can be mean I know...even me. I'm talking about those people who continuously make a point to be mean at any and every given opportunity. It's like they forgot simple honest manners....you know the little things like "thank you" and "please"....I for one believe when the little things are forgotten the bigger more important things are all but forgotten. For instance if someone never says "please" or "thank you" or "excuse me" what are the chances this person is gonna pull over after an accident and make sure you don't need a phone call made. Though it's been happening for a long time in our country I'm not only not used to it, but I refuse to become used to it. Weather in a position of dealing with customers or just out on the loose without adult supervision, humans as a whole should be taught simple and basic manners. I don't expect the world to act as if were all guests at the queen of England's dinner table, but would it kill people to show a little "nice". Because Nice Matters People it really does. Would it be so painful for some of these arrogant ass's to smile or hold a door or let an opportunity to be rude to someone pass them by without action. I mean come on people most of our mothers would be appalled if they knew we behaved that way. Although, I'm sure some of you learned the behavior from your mothers, do you really wanna pass those bad habits on to your children?

Maybe you do, maybe you see nothing wrong with your inconsiderate and rude behavior, maybe you pride yourself on being the biggest ass anyone knows. If you are that person I'm gonna let you in on a little secret. No one likes you....I don't care if you think you have a hundred friends....no one likes you....these people are around because they owe you something and can't get away till their debt is paid off or they want something from you and their just bidding their time till they get it....they are talking shit behind your back....they are laughing at you when your not looking....they only spend as much time with you as they "have" to.....they do not like you....you will not be remembered as a great part of their lives in the end. They will not think of you in any good fashion after they have used you for whatever they need. So you keep being proud of your unwanted and unnecessary attitude....just keep in mind one day you will be alone....all alone....and I'm willing to bet when you call someone to come visit you....your more than willing to say "please" and "thank you" which is after all where all the trouble began in the first place!

Finally an interesting weekend!

Okay so it's been forever since I blogged, mostly because not a whole lot has been going on. Chet was rained out of work for a week. He's back to work and working overtime to boot. Shy is still doing wonderful at school. I have been delving into my role of "Domestic Goddess" with gusto. Other than that it's pretty much been business as usual at the Turner mansion. I use the term mansion very loosely! This weekend however was a total un-norm for us....un-norm....yep that sounds like it's a word or one that should be if it isn't.

J came into town to hang out and go to the Slipknot concert with Chet. It was one of our graduation presents for her. We also got her a leather journal, 'cause no doubt college is gonna give her plenty to journal about! She got in about 2am Sunday morning and her Chet and I stayed up till 6am talking and catching up. Then we all went to bed....I'm not sure what time Chet got up....way to early, but I got up around 10 and of course I promptly woke J up. We all had a delish breakfast, thanks to Big Daddy of course. Then we got dressed and J went and had lunch with a friend of hers and when she got back Chet and I went to his Aunt and Uncles and Shy went with J to take birthday presents to her cousin. When everyone got back to the house Big daddy and J got ready and headed off to the concert. Shy and I made up some leftovers for dinner and then cuddled up in Big daddy and I's bedroom and watched Mamma Mia....for the 2,847 time! We had a really good time having a little bonding moment...we love to sing along with musicals! I dozed off on the couch after Shy went to bed and around 11 I started texting Chet he said the traffic was insane and they were gonna be awhile. They got home about 1 soaked through with sweat and I don't even know what else. They were so excited about the concert talking about how fun it was. I was just glad they had a good time. J was super stoked to find bruises on herself from the concert.

So on Monday I got up and got the girls off to school and after they were on their way I went back to bed. J was still sleeping so I figured I could get a good hour or two more. We got up about 10am. J wanted to go get her industrial piercing so we got around and I did a few mundane Monday responsibility's and we were off to get her piercing. Along the way I mentioned that I had thought about getting a nose piercing. She of course was like, totally you have to it would be so cool! After we got to the tattoo parlor I thought about it and had totally talked myself out of it, when on a whim I decided to text Chet and see what he thought....I was thinking he would be appalled by the idea and that would clench it up for me.....no he was so totally for it....Damn....now I might actually have to do it....crap....so before I could change my mind I gave the man the money and signed on the dotted line. It was painful, more than an ear, but less than a tongue. Now that it's been a couple of hours it's kinda throbbing a bit, I keep twisting and turning it. I am however already thinking of uber cute nose rings I've seen.

Now a little more detail about Sat. Chet's aunt called him and told him to come over for lunch actually she invited the whole family. Unfortunately Shy and I already had plans. So Chet went over to his aunt's and Surprise! His Grandpa and Grandma from Texas were in town! It had been a really long time since Chet had seen them. To say he was stoked was an understatement. He came home in a stellar mood. Although we had plans most of the next day with Jess he told me he wanted us to go over on Sun. so I could meet them. Now as everyone knows the tension between Chet's family and myself couldn't be cut with a knife....You would need a chainsaw....but he was so excited, he wanted so bad for us to be able to visit with them. So I took a deep breath and agreed. I gotta admit I was not looking forward to being treated as the unwanted guest. Much to my relief and surprise, I was treated wonderfully! Chet had told me many times when I finally met D and R I would love them and he was right I did love them. They were fun and I can't wait to know them better. They told us we had to come visit, and I am totally stoked to make it happen. T went out of her way to make sure I felt welcome, she was warm and friendly. I had a really good time. It was fun conversation. After all my worrying I was so happy I went and I was super stoked that Chet was so thrilled he got to spend some time with his family and his wife! All in all it was a wonderful experience.

So between the family, concerts, stress, introductions, late nites, and body piercings....it was truly the most fun weekend in a long while! The worst part was saying good bye to J. I can't wait to see her again! She truly is a most wonderful and amazing human being and I feel truly blessed to know her.

Finally catching up!

It's been almost a month since I posted....so much for my once a week plan! Okay, lets see the reason I have been so negligent lately is basically pain! I had a to have a root canal re-treated....and while he was doing the procedure my wonderful dentist found out when the idiot of a dentist did the root canal the first time he left a canal undone....now I'm not a dentist and I do not have any medical experience or background, but I'm thinking that's not supposed to happen. To make matters worse the tooth was abscessed, which I have gathered simply means it was infected! So while having the normal pain of a root canal I also had the added bonus of a raging infection. It has not been fun! So I have done no journaling no meditation no blogging and no scrapping in almost a month. To say it's been hell is an understatement....however this weekend I was on the up! I was looking forward to a weekend of quiet and joyful bliss! My husband and I were planning to spend the weekend cuddled up, enjoying each other. We did and it was an absolute joy! We also finished the second book in the twilight series. We start on the third tonight. The weekend was wonderful. I did have a fight....a stupid one at that with who I thought was a really good friend. I still am not quite sure why the whole thing even went down, apparently I am supposed to read minds, and have a inner demon who is out to destroy every human being I encounter. Oddly, it was all over a silly meaningless (or so I thought) comment on facebook! This damn Internet gets me in all kinds of trouble! Lol!

As for the last couple of weeks it has been the usual worries and stresses. Money, friends, kids....just normal stuff. I did have an experience a week or so ago. My dd has been more than a little difficult to handle lately, and it seemed to me she was being especially rude and disrespectful to me personally, so I finally had had enough one evening while I was making dinner and asked her straight out what the deal was. Now I started the conversation (not wanting to hear the answer) with the question....."Do you just not like being here" I was expecting a snide and revengeful comment like "No, 'cuse you make me eat my vegetables, clean my room, do my homework and sometimes redo it if I got answers wrong," The answer couldn't have been more of a surprise. It was a long conversation so I'll just give you the gist. She is angry with her dad....really angry and she's scared if she tells him how she feels he'll just send her to our house and forget about her. I was shocked I literally sat there starring at her like a goof. I didn't know what to say at first. She had examples of what she felt was neglect and a lack of love on his part. Now all kids have complaints about their parents, this was different though....this broke my heart....as my daughter spoke I couldn't help but see myself 3 yrs ago trying so hard to make the same man understand the same things. My daughter had the very same hurts and issues that were the reason for her parents divorce. I have always said that one of the reasons I left was because I wanted her to know if you weren't happy some where you could always leave you never had to feel less than you are. Now I was being faced with the knowledge that she was feeling this way and she thought she couldn't leave. He's her father not a boyfriend or a best friend or a roommate. I spoke to him and adjustments were made. However the feeling I felt listening to her in her hopeless little girl voice, the helplessness I felt when she looked at me with eyes that are identical to my own expecting that like always I would fix what was wrong in her world. I love being a mother more than anything in the world but the helplessness at times is literally heartbreaking and bone crushing. She does seem so much better now that she has said it all and attention is being paid to the issues. That's a relief her whole personality and outlook has been wonderful as of late....WhooHoo!

I guess that pretty much sums up the last few weeks....hmmm kinda pathetic....were not nearly as interesting as one would guess!

A late update

Okay, so this 'week in review' is a bit late, but here it is! Last week was pretty calm and ordinary. The family was getting to know our newest member and what fun he could be. Shy stayed home on Wed 'cuse she had a tummy ache, and on Thurs she had a dentist appt. So we head over to the dentist, and just as we walk in the door the receptionist meets us and informs us that her appt has been cancelled....WTF! You can't call....or e-mail or send a letter or drop a post card in the mail....you could have even come by on your lunch break our house is 2 blocks from the dentist....needless to say we got a new dentist. After the dentist fiasco...I decided it was time for a haircut...not my usual 2ins of the bottom....I got it chopped about 9ins! I was a little hesitant at first 'cuse I got bangs to, but now that I've lived with it awhile I love it...it's so much easier to handle....not to mention flat iron! My tooth was really bothering me and I had already found out the dentist was out of town so I went by my soon to be old dentist and begged for drugs till I could get into the new dentist....it helped for the day or 2 it had to. We had a low key weekend....just enjoying the family. Shy had a friend over sat night. They were very good. This weekend when the blizzard hit I was kinda worried, Shy had her friend to keep her company....Chet had halo 3.... but what about me....lucky for me they were having an online scrap and game weekend on one of my favorite scrap sites. So I settled in and geared up to scrap till my fingers hurt....I did a total of 3 lo's and 2 cards....the best part....I won! I won 4 times....some for lo's 1 for a card and a couple of games....I had a really good time and now I'll be getting lots of scrap goodies in the mail for the next week or so....excited just isn't a big enough word!! I also was given a heads up by a friend about an online company who was having a "dollar days" scrap sale....I hit that sucker hard and I only spent $20. I got a ton of new ribbon and embellies! It was an awesome scrap weekend! That takes us through till Monday and that's a new blog that will have to wait....hope everyone is well and wonderful!! BTW.... all the lo's and cards I did this week and weekend can be seen on my scrap blog site! Muahhh to all!